On accepting reality “as it is” and a tribute to George Floyd and his daughter, Giana

I used to think that practicing acceptance meant surrendering to the limitation of reality. This was often referred to as “accepting reality, as it is.” Like today, for example, when I am feeling under the weather and won’t get to everything I had planned to accomplish.

These days, my perception of reality has radically expanded, and so the expression “accepting reality, as it is” has a very different meaning to me.
I want to share with you how you too can shift into a more expansive, life-affirming perspective of “reality, as it is.” I want you to realize how you have the choice to focus on accepting equally the limitations and the possibilities of your reality.
And, as we are at the beginning of the trial of the killing of George Floyd by a police officer, I want to honor this moment and talk about George Floyd’s daughter, Giana, and how it relates to accepting both the limitations and possibilities of reality.

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Hello everybody, it is Wednesday and another Expanding on Expansive weekly tips and teachings. Today I want to focus on acceptance that has been the word of the week and the posts of this week. And I want to ask you a question, when you accept things as they are, do you focus on the limitations of your life or on how wondrous it is? You see, until a certain point when I had an aha a realization, I always thought of acceptance as meaning accepting reality as it is. But that really meant accepting the limitations.

So for example, today, I’m not feeling that well, I’m feeling under the weather. And so I had a long list of things I was going to get done today, and I’m not going to get to it. So I’m just doing what I commited that I have to do, or I have to show up like today here. And so I need to accept the limitations of this reality, that I am not going to get everything that I was going to get done, done today. And I always thought of acceptance as belonging to that category.

And then one day I had an aha. I thought, wait a second. If acceptance is about accepting reality as it is, then depending on how expansive my reality is, my perception of reality is that’s how much I’m going to have to accept. So can you accept that you live on a wondrous planet? Can you accept that this planet was created out of love and creativity and just unbelievable creativity through evolution.

It’s just miraculous how this planet and how humanity has evolved. And how for example from what we sometimes call dirt, the earth, either what grows above that earth or underneath we’ve created civilization. If you go out and sit on the earth you can create civilization just from that. One thing after another pollinating each other with different ideas, creativity, over time over years, technology has evolved, and using what grows above the earth and what grows inside has served us to create civilization that is so miraculous and so wondrous if you think about it. Then my question is, can you accept that? Can you accept that this is the world that we live in? And that’s not just one thing.

Those are the laws of how things work. So can you accept how talented you are, how gifted you are, how unique you are, how you are a present and a gift to your immediate world. People who you love, who you work with. You are a gift that they need in their world. Can you accept that? That’s accepting the possibilities of your life and not just the limitations of your life. The possibilities of reality and not just the limitations of reality. So can you accept that sometimes you’re able to perform instant manifestation when you desire something and all the conditions are ready. Boom. It shows up. Can you accept how wondrous this world is that that works like that, that when all the ideas from the ethers, from the spiritual realms are the conditions in the material realm are ready, poof, it manifests into something incarnate. Can you accept that you have access to infinite wisdom, to infinite love, to infinite compassion, to infinite power, to your own power, to choose how you want to live. That you can travel from the spiritual to the material, from imagining to manifesting, from desiring to realizing, from visioning to creating, that is so wondrous that the human species has that capacity.

And so the question is, how often do you focus and how much do you focus on accepting that reality of the possibilities that that’s, that brings this perspective? And so that’s really my focus for today. I want to connect it to the murder of George Floyd, because the trial of the policemen who murdered him began this week. So stay with me for just a bit longer, but I want you to see and pay attention. How often you focus on accepting your limitations, which you should do in the sense of, okay, this is reality. I’m not going to run a marathon today. I’m going to rest. And I’m just going to start tomorrow again, hope that I feel better tomorrow. Accept that that’s the limitation for today.

Can you also accept the possibilities, the wondrous magic of your life? So that’s what I invite you to do to first pay attention on how often you focus on accepting that your limitations, versus how often you have focused on accepting your possibilities. If like most of us, you realize you spend more time accepting limitations. I can’t change this relationship.

This is how it is. I can’t change this friendship. I can’t change my financial situation. My health condition is what it is. It’s like, yeah, there’s the reality. But within that reality of this is the limitation. There’s so many other venues and possibilities. Can you accept those expansive perspective on the possibilities of your life and of our life on planet earth, humanity, nature. So that’s the focus of the talk today, or my showing up today. I wanted to focus on that, but I want to bring it to George Floyd and particularly to his daughter Gianna, who a year ago, so there’s a video which you could go online and find. I saw it only this week I didn’t see it when it came out last year.

So George Floyd’s best friend holds George Floyd’s daughter, Gianna on his shoulders. And she says, with this beautiful smile, “Daddy changed the world.” And the cameras ask her, “What did he do?” she says, “Daddy changed the world.” Now I want to relate to today also because it is that week that the trial begins, but because it relates for me to acceptance.

How big is your vision and perspective on any given situation? Can you imagine that to lose your father and never to have access to him again? And to have actually his death on video for the rest of your life, in the horrendous way that he was murdered. That is so awful. And you can see the limitations. You can experience the limitations, the grief, the limitations here. But look, the adults around reframed and gave her an expansive perspective. “Daddy changed the world,” and he sure did. He wasn’t the first black man who received police brutality and was murdered, not the last either, unfortunately, but his specific case changed the world. And so, you know, he’s not the Dalai Lama who we take every word as if it’s the most important word that can come out of a human being. He’s not Jesus. He’s not the president of the United States or the country where you are. A simple man like you and me who died a horrific death and everybody got to watch it. And it awoke, we awakened from it.

Black people were living this kind of life in a war zone, but for white people, for us, it was like, we know about this, but oh my god, this is inhumane, inhumane. And so to reframe for this little girl, that her father is not some big spiritual teacher, someone you learn in history books because he was this famous whatever. But yes, he has become that. “Daddy changed the world.” That to accept that in the middle of your grief of having lost your father, that is also accepting the possibility of what has come out of this horrendous murder. And so I invite you each to participate in your own life fully to accept the possibilities and not just the limitations of your life, to reframe it into the larger, more expansive, spiritual long-term perspective, which was done for Gianna.

And then I want to end with, I invite you to change the world. I invite you to change your world, yourself, the world that you live in, the people that you immediately affect and influence, don’t give up, but just accept the limitations of your life. We live in too wondrous a world in order to just accept the limitations and not see the expansive, magical, glorious, wondrous world that we live in. And glorious, amazing, unique life that you are living right now. And to accept that and all the possibilities that it grants you to live more fully.

So I leave you with that, send you blessings of accepting acceptance of your possibilities and tapping into those more and seeing if you can practice, accepting the possibilities in your life, instead of just focusing on accepting reality as it is, but it’s really the limitations of your life that you’re accepting. Have a good rest of your week. And I will be back next week with another Expanding on Expansive weekly tips and teachings.

Blessings.